Since we are little innocent babies, we instinctually seek the attention of people around us whether they are our parents,teachers, or friends. However, this behavior is deemed unhealthy when we face the fact that people have different perspectives from one another, and satisfying all these people is like filling a hollow bucket with water (it is never filled). So, should we still believe these contradictory, different, biased mortals when they call us losers?
“Loser” is a derogatory term called to anyone who doesn’t fit into mainstream society and a certain social expectations.As ironical as it may sound, these standards are in constant change with the time and they differ from a place to another.For some communities if you are single ,you are considered a loser, and for other communities you fly in economy class, you are a loser. Satisfying all these radical and naïve opinions is a torture in itself.
What goes on in other people’s consciousness is, as such, a matter of indifference to us: and in time we get really indifferent to it, when we come to see how superficial and futile are most people’s thoughts-Arthur Schopenhauer
In this harsh reality,we live in quiet desperation(especially for men),competing against each other for status,wealth,and power. But we unfortunately tend to forget the fact that each one of us is different from one another. None of us chose whose his or her own parents are, in what country to be born and raised, what mental and physical abilities we want to acquire. Most of the important factors to success are not in our control and heavily affect our success’s probability.
Nevertheless,complainig and whining about it are not the healthy approach toward this truth. Instead,we have to set our dreams and goals in accordance to our abilities and expectations. We need to realise the fact that sometimes we have to work 10 times harder to achieve half the progress the winners achieve. We have to stop comparing ourselves to others and start celebrating the small wins because as a loser they are all we got. With ceaseless determination and perseverance, these small wins can add up to become big ones. This mindset will not make you among the winners but it will help you reach your personal goals and build a fulfilling life.
Note: This mindset can backfire if you use it as an excuse cover to your own laziness and quitting. Treating yourself like a victim will not get you anywhere in life but make you a Sad Loser
